If you have recently been through or filed for a divorce, you may be aware that just because you have a divorce decree does not mean that you don’t ever have to think about your divorce ever again. Even with legal documents, a spouse may refuse to comply with court orders regarding property division, child support, visitation, child custody, or spousal maintenance matters. Indubitably, this can cause overwhelming frustration and demand that you continue to focus on your divorce long after it should have been settled. Continue reading
When two or more people are involved in an automobile accident, sometimes they won’t be sure if they want to call the police. They may not be certain if a police report is necessary or legally required, or one of the drivers may be hiding something, such as a suspended or revoked license, expired registration tags, or the fact that they’re driving without insurance.
All children are special and they require different forms of parenting. There is no instruction manual, no how-to guide, no cheat code. Unfortunately, a divorce can bring out many difficulties of being a parent.
It is normal to question what to say to your children and how to let them know that a divorce is coming. The answer is not a one-size-fits-all because no two cases are the same. However, despite the gray areas, there are a few points that most lawyers advise their clients to make:
- Let the children know that both parents love them.
- The divorce is not about them in the least.
- Everything will be fine.
This conversation often comes at a time where the questioned parent doesn’t have answers as to where the children will live, what school they will go to, and what the actual custody schedule will be.
As it turns out, this might not be the best advice after all. Time.com recently published an article in which the writer advises that children who are anxious should not be told everything will be O.K.
Rather, it is important for parents to validate children’s worries.
A child psychologist can help parents relay the notion of an impending divorce to their children. As distasteful as it may seem to sit in an office with your soon-to-be ex to come up with a plan to tell the children, it could make all the difference to your children.
What should you do when you don’t have all the answers? First, determine what it is that the child is worried about. Depending on the age, this could be at its simple as wondering whether a favorite toy will be able to come to a new home. Determining a child’s worries avoids compounding the problem by giving more information than might be necessary, thereby causing more stress. Give what answers you can, without scaring the child. For instance, when a child asks which parent he or she will live with in the middle of a custody evaluation, be honest. Tell the child that mom and dad haven’t made that decision yet and the judge and other professionals are going to help make that decision. Don’t ask a young child for his or her preference. This places the child in the unreasonable position of having to choose one parent over the other. Regardless of how you feel about your soon-to-be ex, most children love both parents equally and unconditionally.
Don’t be afraid to say, “I don’t know,” but say it reassuringly. For a parent who does not anticipate being able to stay in the same school district, assuring that the child will be part of the process of finding a new residence can make the child feel part of the decision-making. This can alleviate some of the fears and anxiety. “I don’t know” is not a perfect answer, but it is better than the child being kept completely in the dark until the day the divorce is over.
It’s no secret that Brangelina has broken up. Brad Pitt has 30 days from September 15 to file a response to Angelina Jolie’s divorce filing.
Pitt has taken the next step in the proceedings and has hired lawyer Lance Spiegel. The top divorce lawyer out of Beverly Hills, Ca., has handled cases for the likes of Charlie Sheen, Michael Jackson, Russell Simmons, Heather Locklear and Eva Longoria.
According to the website of his firm, Young, Spiegel & Lee, Spiegel has “been involved in many high profile, and complex family law matters.”
Spiegel already has his hands full; the case now includes an investigation by the FBI that Pitt was allegedly abusive to his eldest son Maddox on a private plane from France to the U.S. Allegedly, he got drunk and got violent with the kids and Jolie.
Angelina, currently holed up in a Malibu rental with the kids, filed for divorce citing “irreconcilable differences.” She is seeking physical custody of the couple’s six children.
Lawyers for Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt, prodded by the Los Angeles County Department of Children and Family Services, have worked out an initial arrangement under which Jolie gets full custody of the couple’s six children, with Pitt allowed to visit. Plus, he has to submit to random drug/alcohol testing and both parents have to undergo separate counseling and family counseling. At this point, the parties have the choice of either going into open court to fight or working out an amicable resolution behind closed doors to be in place until the divorce is granted.
If you and your spouse are considering filing for divorce, call us for a free consultation. Don’t let it spiral out of control. Don’t #Brangelina your marriage and your children.
At least one person is dead and about 100 others are injured – many severely – after a New Jersey Transit train crashed into a station in Hoboken Thursday morning during rush hour, according to authorities.
The Associated Press reported that the accident happened at 8:45 a.m. and involved train number 1614, which was traveling from Spring Valley, New York, on the Pascack Valley line.
The train was full of commuters, and witnesses have reported that the train was traveling at a high rate of speed when it plowed through the station and through a bumper stop at the end of the track. Reports indicate that the train came to a stop in a covered area between the platform and an indoor waiting area.
Preliminary reports from local law enforcement officials suggest the crash was accidental or caused by operator error. The investigation, however, is still in the early stages.
Many have stated in interviews with reporters that the train appeared to be moving faster than usual as it entered the station.
Witnesses shared photos on social media of the derailed train in the station. Many photos showed significant damage to the structure, which is the fifth busiest in the New Jersey Transit system with about 15,000 boardings per weekday.
Here at the Mullen Law Firm, we express our greatest condolences to those who were involved in this tragic accident. We are available to assist those who have been injured or who lost a loved one.
As the investigation continues, many accident victims may be entitled to compensation, which can help cover the medical expenses, lost wages and other costs that may result from injuries sustained in this accident.
If you have been injured or lost a loved one, do not hesitate to contact us today to learn more about your legal options.
The new school year is here, and with it comes the rush of back-to-school preparations. But in the scramble to buy notebooks, #2 pencils, and the perfect pair of sneakers, it’s worth taking a moment to consider your child’s route to school and back again every weekday. Kids travel between home and school in a variety of ways: some are driven by parents, while others take the school bus, walk, or ride a bike. There are benefits to each of these, depending on a family’s situation, but each method comes with its own hazards as well. Considering these possible dangers carefully can help you plan the safest commute possible for your child. Continue reading
Dividing the family’s property during divorce can be quite difficult, especially if there are significant assets such as houses, rental property, retirement and pension plans, stock options, restricted stock, deferred compensation, brokerage accounts, closely-held businesses, professional practices and licenses, etc. Deciding who should get what can be quite a challenge, even under the most amenable of situations. But, if your divorce is contentious, then this can be especially complicated.
It would seem that there wouldn’t be much of a connection between a workers’ compensation claim and proceedings in family court. Unfortunately, though, the two are far too often tied together. When a primary breadwinner is injured at work, it can have a dramatic impact on his or her family, whether or not there is discord or divorce. Here are the most common family law issues that arise in workers’ compensation proceedings. Continue reading
For most people, the simple act of filing or being asked for a divorce is excruciatingly painful. As a consequence, most parties to a divorce try to keep things as amicable as possible, so that the whole matter can be resolved without going to trial. But what if all your best efforts to avoid that don’t work. What if you can’t find mutually beneficial solutions to difficult issues and have to ask the court to resolve matters for you? Are you prepared for your day in divorce court? If you have to go to court, the more you know and understand about the process in advance, the less stressful it will be and the more effectively you’ll be able to participate. Continue reading